Archive for birželio 2012
RULE #3
They don’t teach you this in school. They don’t show
you the beauty of existing, they don’t show you the wonder of the
earth, they don’t show you the unity that human beings are. They show
you who’s better, who’s worse. They show you what they need to show you
in order for their system to survive. They don’t show you love.
BY PHILIP ROTH
You fight your superficiality, your shallowness, so as to try to come at
people without unreal expectations, without an overload of bias or hope
or arrogance, as untanklike as you can be, sans cannon and machine guns
and steel plating half a foot thick; you come at them unmenacingly on
your own ten toes instead of tearing up the turf with your caterpillar
treads, take them on with an open mind, as equals, man to man, as we
used to say, and yet you never fail to get them wrong. You might as
well have the brain of a tank. You get them wrong before you meet them,
while you're anticipating meeting them; you get them wrong while you're
with them; and then you go home to tell somebody else about the meeting
and you get them all wrong again. Since the same generally goes for
them with you, the whole thing is really a dazzling illusion. ... The
fact remains that getting people right is not what living is all about
anyway. It's getting them wrong that is living, getting them wrong and
wrong and wrong and then, on careful reconsideration, getting them wrong
again. That's how we know we're alive: we're wrong. Maybe the best
thing would be to forget being right or wrong about people and just go
along for the ride. But if you can do that -- well, lucky you.